Multi-Orgasmic Lovers – Healing Love through the Tao

Multi-orgasmic sex is possible with ancient taoist sexual techniques says Minke de Vos, (in a piece adapted by Kim Knight, Director of Tao Workshops NZ):

How can we grow and cultivate more love in our life? The ancient Taoists were experts in the cultivation of the intimate arts, and fortunately for us the practices have survived as they have been passed down from Master to student.

Taoist sexuality, also called the ‘Arts of the Bedchamber’, is a three thousand year old tradition that has long known about male and female multiple orgasms and many other secrets of sexual satisfaction. It was developed to help couples experience more pleasurable and healing lovemaking. Through these practices one learns to experience the physically healing, emotionally intimate and spiritually profound aspects of lovemaking.

Mantak Chia, founder of the Universal Healing Tao, is one of the few present-day Masters who is openly passing on these sexual alchemy secrets to the world. In his best-selling books ‘The Multi Orgasmic Couple’, ‘Multi Orgasmic Woman’ and ‘Multi Orgasmic Man’ Chia intricately describes in step-by-step detail a variety of practices for heightening sexual pleasure and intimacy. His belief is that it is everyone’s birthright to have a blissful love life and his teachings inspire couples to not only make love all night, but to make love last a lifetime.

The potential for bliss

According to Master Chia, “shocking as it is for most people to hear, both women and men can have multiple orgasms….However, this is just the beginning of sexual knowledge… When you and your partner are both multi-orgasmic, you will each experience far greater individual pleasure. You will also be able to harmonize your sexual needs and reach ever more fulfilling levels of intimacy and ecstasy together”.

Before going further, I’d like to share how I experience love and sex in my own relationship, so that you get a feel of opportunities that may await you:

“My partner’s presence and awareness allows me to open my heart and body in trust so we can both surrender to the bliss of union. He takes me on a journey and I respond with “active reception”, being aware with movement, like dancing together. I allow sound to express my pleasure. We feel the energy spiralling through us and around us. We channel the universal orgasmic force through us, for the sake of all beings. Deep peace soaks into our bones as we nest. Our joyful play and touch throughout the day is a continual, seamless foreplay. We meditate together and experience alchemical bliss just sitting still in the same room. When I am travelling I feel his presence cuddling and comforting me and I do not feel alone. I am so grateful to have our warm and loving connection in my life”.

Soul Mates

Have you ever longed for your soul mate? A soul mate is someone with whom you feel a mind-heart-spirit connection, which could have been cultivated in past lifetimes. This connection is cultivated by sharing in all three aspects of your being: thinking (views on life), feeling (what you care for) and willing (your life style). Soul Mating is a profoundly intimate experience of union and oneness. It can be felt at a distance. You can experience orgasmic lovemaking on the other side of the world with your partner! Like remote viewing or remote healing, remote soul union is a vivid reality.

The compassion you cultivate in your relationship can deepen your whole spiritual life. As Mantak Chia says, “Sexuality and spirituality are inextricably linked for Taoists”. Body, soul and spirit are one being and work together quite naturally if we do not separate them and judge them as sinful or taboo. He adds “People who deny sexual energy lose access to this vital source of energy and vitality for their life and spiritual growth.”

Sexual energy is sacred. When our raw passionate energy is refined and channelled upwards to higher energy centers it becomes the power behind love, creativity and communion with the Divine or Universal Love. He adds “According to the Taoists, this love and ecstasy that we feel in our most intimate relationship is simply a taste of the Universal Love and the blissful oneness with the Original Force of the universe that we can experience as we grow spiritually.”

Authentic Connection

Starting with a smile The Inner Smile

So where do we start? Despite the many in depth techniques that are prescribed for both men and women, the sexual ‘healing love’ practices always start with a smile. Romantic intentions are worth little if your body is tired or ailing, or if energetic imbalances prevent the sexual energy from overflowing from your heart into your partner’s. If you are out of sorts you will be irritable or emotional, whilst anger or harsh words can hurt, and damage trust and responsiveness during lovemaking.

One of the key foundation Healing Tao practices is the ‘Secret of the Inner Smile’, where you connect with a golden sunny glow of unconditional love and let it flow down your body, melting tension and transforming negativity. Love is the energy of the heart – your feeling centre – and the essence of authentic connection starts with love for one self. Thus one learns to smile to each organ in the body (heart, lungs, liver, kidneys etc) which immediately transforms the chemistry of the body. This exercise, when taken to more profundity during lovemaking, actually allows each organ to have its own orgasm, which in itself is an extremely healing process for the whole body.

Inner Smile Exercise:

If you like, practice this short meditation with your partner in turn. Read it slowly, taking the time to pause in between each segment: ‘Close your eyes and lift the corners of your lips into a smile, feeling the uplifting sensation in your body as you do this. Lifting the corners of your lips creates a whole body smile that is like turning on a light switch. Smile down with love and deep appreciation to every organ in turn, moving from your heart, to the spleen, to the lungs, to the kidneys and finally the liver, as you move through the five elements within the body. Then smile down to your sexual organs, (breasts, womb, vagina and ovaries for women – prostate, penis, testicles for men). Notice how this feels and how your body responds to this intimate inner connection. Get in touch with the life force energy present in your sexual organs which we call sexual energy. Notice how it comes alive just by bringing attention to it’.

Connecting your Orbits of Love The Microcosmic Orbit

Even without any more formal training, you can practice this technique before lovemaking and see how it intensifies your sensual pleasure and deepens feelings of compassion and intimacy. During Taoist training you will learn how to move both unaroused and aroused sexual energy through specific energy channels in the body, starting with the ‘Microcosmic Orbit’ – the two major acupuncture meridians which run up the front and back of the body. Rather than wasting precious life force energy during orgasm, one learns to channel this energy through one’s own Orbit for intensified bliss, and later to share it with one’s partner.

For men, the biggest loss of life force comes through ejaculation, and they are taught to minimize and eventually withhold from ejaculating. ‘Sexual Kung Fu’ is the art of seminal retention, how to pull up the sexual energy with breathing, mindfulness and muscle control instead of letting out through ejaculation. Thus men can learn too to have whole body orgasms: instead of exploding through the genitals the vibrations rises through the Microcosmic Orbit and internal organ channels to the heart and head. During lovemaking this energy can also penetrate through the core channel of the woman, multiply and circle back into him in a continuous loop.

Another fascinating practice is the art of sexual reflexology. Based on the premise that all our organs have reflex points on other parts of the body, reflexology is most often associated with massage of the hands and feet. Yet the most powerful reflex points are on the sexual organs: as specific areas of the penis and vagina come into contact with each other during lovemaking, the internal organs that are connected to each reflex point are stimulated deep within, heightening pleasure and bringing healing.

Sexual Reflexology can also help couples to determine their internal energy compatibility and reveal their character and disposition, which will help define the nature of their relationship.

Soul Orgasm

Soul Orgasm is possible when you feel orgasmic energy circulating and waving through the body. This fundamental circulation of energy in the Microcosmic Orbit becomes a way to receive and give energy and also generate love and light. Once this pathway is open, you and your partner can exchange energy, linking your Orbits into a figure eight, connecting through each others genitals, tongues, foreheads and hearts. The yin energy of the woman flows into the man and the yang energy of the man flows into the woman, creating a harmonious field of united energy. The exchange of energy can be felt even without touching. When a soul orgasm overflows beyond the physical it can feel like a fountain rising out the crown. In bliss, souls can unite above the body. This energetic bonding deepens the potential of long term relationships. You start to cultivate a perennial garden of love, joy, trust and respect.

When we as partners are committed to supporting the highest in each other, we become portals for Source or Unconditional Love to flow through us. As the Taoists teachings say “When sexual energy and loving energy are combined the energy becomes stable and nourishing”. Compassion, a higher state of consciousness, develops and ripples out into all your relationships and the world around you. We urgently need this powerful healing energy to heal this world and to generate more love for generations to come. Mantak Chia says “Multiple orgasms are part of an unfolding process of becoming one with each other and the world.” The whole universe is continually pulsating and vibrating. When we orgasm we harmonize with our own body, our partner’s body and the pulsation of the whole world. Becoming a multi-orgasmic lover is realizing that you are one with the continuous, orgasmic, creative, and mysterious universal process!

Building Love and Compassion Exercise:

Make love in the morning: the Taoists see this as energizing, which gives us the openness and joy to greet the day and deal effectively with any stresses that may occur. Then allow love to flow between you and your partner throughout the day, even when you are apart. Only with this openness of your body and your heart can you truly feel the flow of energy within you, and between you and your partner. The more love that you feel for each other, the more orgasmic you will become. As Mantak Chia says “Learning to make love from your heart is the essence of Healing Love. Without your sincere love for each other, sex is simply friction. Friction is certainly pleasurable, but it is real love that will bind your bodies together in ecstatic lovemaking for a lifetime”.

All quotes with permission from ‘The Multi-Orgasmic Couple’ by Mantak Chia & Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams & Rache Carlton Abrams, M.D.

Minke De Vos

Author: Minke de Vos is the Director of Silent Ground Retreats (www.silentground.com) in Vancuver BC. She has devoted over 20 years to the practice of internal arts, working alongside Mantak Chia since 1983. She will be in New Zealand to teach in February – March 2009.

Mantak Chia is the founder of the Universal Healing Tao. Initiated into meditation by Buddhist monks at the age of 6, he has spent his whole life practicing the art of ‘internal energy cultivation’ and is a master of the sexual alchemical practices. He will be in New Zealand for the first time ever to teach in April 2009. See www.taoworkshops.co.nz